Will You Go Out With Me ?

The question ‘Will you go out with me?’ seems simple enough and is said everyday to many different women. Some women say yes and some say no. If you get a lot of no’s you may think it has something to do with you and your looks, personality, or something else – BUT it may actually have to do with when you ask the question!

When you approach a woman you should always start with a conversation about your surroundings or something of interest to her. Asking a woman at the strip club if she likes quilting is not the appropriate conversation to have with her. But if you ask her about dancing or if she wants to incorporate dancing into a career then you may have a better conversation that she enjoys. But this article is not about the type of conversation to have.

The point here is that you need to start having an interesting conversation with her before you ask her out. There are a few reasons for this.

1. It shows her that you are not just basing your attraction solely on her looks.

Yes, it’s flattering to have a man think you are attractive and be interested in your looks, but it’s not flattering when it’s the only thing he likes.

Asking her out before she has gotten a chance to show you who she really is may have her wondering if you are just interested in her body (and sex) or if you actually want to get to know her as a person. Some women will just say no when approached this way for that very reason.

2. It allows her to figure out if she’s interested in you.

If you approach her and ask her out without a conversation first then you are risking her making a judgement on you that may not reflect who you actually are. She may not see the quality in you that she is actually looking for because of her first visual impression.

Essentially she sees a guy who didn’t bother to talk to her and get to know her a little bit. She also see’s your physical traits which she may not find attractive in men. Most men can bypass the physical attraction with a good personality, attitude, and outlook on life – but if you don’t talk to her then she doesn’t get to see those traits. So make sure you show her the whole package before you ask her out.

So the next time you approach a woman to ask her out remember to initiate a conversation first. It doesn't matter if you are at the bar or at work - make the effort to get to know her a little and it will pay off big time!