Relationship Trust

Without complete trust in your relationship you have suspicion and imagination; You have wondering and questions; You have accusations and hurt, and they all take the place of trust. Not good.

But with complete trust in your relationship you have knowing and peace and an ease in your relationship that comes with trusting each other.

Which would you rather have?

Trust is supposed to be built upon from the beginning but sometimes it starts out on the wrong foot which can hinder the rest of the relationship.

When we start our relationship we tend to bring all of our experiences and issues into the relationship as well.

Experience can be a good thing if we let it.

You learn what you want and don't want in your life and you use that in all your future endeavors BUT if you have not learned from your experiences then you are instead bringing them and your feelings attached to them with you wherever you go...even into a new relationship.

'Baggage' is the term used from bringing negative feelings and experiences from past relationships to new ones and it should be checked at the door when you start a new relationship.

You have to remember that it is not fair to label someone or something due to past experiences. It's not fair and it's not healthy.

The best way to forget the baggage and start your new relationship is to communicate properly right from the start.

So many people have a communication problem in their relationship and this results in distrust, anger, and hurt.

Talk about everything from your daily routine to your wants and desires and make sure you do it honestly.Keep it real and positive. No sarcasm towards each other and no comments that make the other person not want to talk to you about certain things. There should be nothing hidden from each other and no topic that is off limits.

Honest communication is really the only way to communicate and establish trust. If you are dishonest it will come back to bite you in the ass someday. Plus dishonesty usually shows itself through actions and actions will speak louder then words. (ie. You may be saying you love their hair but if your face says otherwise there will be no convincing them you are telling the truth!)

Talking is not the only part of communication though. Listening is often done wrong and results in negative situations.

Listening should not involve thinking about what you are going to say next or watching TV while doing it. It should be pure attention focused towards the person talking and understanding exactly what that person is saying. If you find yourself saying 'uh huh' over and over then you may not be actively listening.

Try repeating what the person said back or picturing exactly what the person is saying in your mind. This will help you focus on what they are talking about.

Be leaving your negative baggage behind and starting to use positive communication you are building a foundation for trust that will be hard to break through.